“Entering into girlhood in the 1990s, with Baby Spice as my hero and girl power as my mantra, I learned that girls could do anything. I was encouraged to have a strong report card, play competitive sports, and follow my professional dreams. ‘Girls can be doctors, too,’ I was told […]”
In the article, Lost In Babyland, Amanda Watson writes about her struggles as a career woman. She wonders how women are supposed to “have it all” but at the same time pick the right societal choice. Do they give up their career to have children, or pick their career over a family? Is it possible to have both?
“Historically, women’s unequal footing in universities has been linked to the time conflict between degree work and women’s biological clocks – an age-old problem, but one that isn’t going away. I drag one of these biological clocks around with me. It’s heavy.
The average age of graduate students beginning doctoral programs in Canada is 30, the same as the average age of first-time mothers. This statistic itself is not staggering. But as I sidle toward that daunting number, its implications hit close to home.”
Amanda states that women need more help in society – such as extended family leave and job re-entry training. Only then can we stop blaming ourselves for failing to act out an often impossible ideal.
What do you think? Can we have it all, or do we have to focus more on one option than another at a certain point in our lives? Women carry a baby for nine months, many breast feed and stay home with the child until it is old enough to go to daycare. This is a significant amount of time for a woman who is in the midst of her career.
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