In our culture it’s increasingly popular for women to wait until they’re nearing their thirties before they decide to have children. Consequently, my choice to have a baby at the age of twenty-four makes me a bit of a novelty, even an oddity, to some people.
I found out that I was pregnant a few weeks before my twenty-fourth birthday and a couple months before I was due to go back to university for my third year. For some women this would be a disastrous, horrifying discovery, but for me it was exciting. You may be surprised to see these words in an article written for a feminist blog, but I’ve always wanted to be a mother. The timing was a bit awkward maybe, but the results are more than worth it. I’ll be holding a baby girl in my arms soon, and that means more to me than any freedom I may be giving up.
It hasn’t always been easy to concentrate on schoolwork, or on much of anything other than my growing baby, but I’ve managed to stay caught up or ahead in all of my courses. This is partly due to the fact that I’ve had a relatively easy pregnancy so far. I also wouldn’t have been able to do what I’m doing without the support of my fiancé, who pays the rent and most of the bills. This situation may seem contrary to the attitudes of feminism, but let me assure you that I do not feel oppressed or unequal in any way. He is happy to be able to support me financially while I work hard to attain my education, grow our daughter, and take care of our home. One day, when I have my university education and high-paying job, he may very well be the one staying home.
Preparing for a baby can get expensive, especially on one income and student loans, but here are a few ways that we’ve found to make the financial burden minimal:
As I write this I am seventeen days away from my due date and feeling mostly prepared for the birth of my daughter. This life is not what every woman would choose, or should have to choose, but it’s the life I chose for myself and I am beyond excited to begin this new adventure.
I will keep you all posted on how it goes.