Curvy Coup D’Etat began as a way of fighting back against a society that portrays an unrealistic body image as the “ideal” body shape to women on an international scale. Whose “ideal” created that image of thinner than thin, I can’t say. What I can say is that this is a lie that is broadcast thousands of times a day through television, movies, literature, magazines and even billboard ads. This is an image that is not only unachievable for most women, but is deadly.
This indoctrination of lies leads to 3% of Canadian women developing an eating disorder within their lifetimes – and that’s only those who have spoken up about it. Most people who suffer from anorexia nervosa will die within a decade if they don’t seek help – combined with bulimia nervosa, chances of survival drop significantly.
Anorexia nervosa is a slow death. It is not glamorous. It is starvation. It means your body begins to eat at your muscle mass. It means your heart will eventually go into cardiac arrest because it can’t support the stress of sustaining life anymore. Anorexia means that any body strength you have will be used to fuel body as it struggles to stay alive. Anorexia is a mental illness. Anorexia is a thief that steals daughters from their mothers, and mothers from their daughters. Anorexia is a murderer.
Anorexia makes me furious. It makes me so angry to see a woman so ill that although her bones are protruding and her skin is pallid, she still sees herself as “fat”. So she continues to starve herself, feeding that horrible monster implanted in her brain. She continues to torture herself because she doesn’t fit into some stupid standard that was only ever created to keep women from becoming empowered in the first place. The anorexic is a victim! How can you be empowered when you are dying on your feet?
Anorexia is the result from a lifetime of being told you aren’t worth anything unless you look, act, and are exactly like the image society thinks you should be. Yesterday, I broke down in tears during a video on misogyny in a cultural studies class. Why? Because the message is clear: “You aren’t good enough until you die trying”.
It’s not always easy to love what you see in the mirror. Actually, it’s not easy at all sometimes. Some days I look at myself in the mirror and I hate what I see. Not all days, but some. Most women I’ve spoken to about this know this feeling too well. It’s not easy to stop picking out all your imperfections and to focus on the things you love about your appearance, but you can do it. It is a choice to love you; it isn’t fate that decides how we feel about our bodies and our own self-beauty. We have the choice to ignore the negative messages about beauty been shot in our direction regularly. We have the choice to fight back. We have the choice to take our future into our hands and choose life over death. Choose love over hate. We have the choice to be who we want to be.
Anorexia is not a joke. It’s death. A slow, painful death for the sufferer and for their loved ones who see them literally wasting away. I want my readers to know: You are good enough just they way you are right now. You are worth something and you are worthy of love. You are worthy of happiness. You are worthy of confidence. You are worthy of LIFE.