It’s a common comment. Sometimes it’s a joke between friends because Cougar One’s cleavage is just a little too out of control when they go out to the bar. It could be something Angry Boyfriend says to About to be Dumped Girlfriend because she flirted with or had sex with his Asshole Best Friend.
It’s just a saying, right? But it can be seen as a huge insult, as if you told someone they were a dirty, useless cretin. So basically, being a whore – a hooker, a prostitute, a sex-trade worker – makes you just that. I mean, if we go by how people react to being called a whore.
So should a hooker feel dirty? A lot of people say, “they got themselves into that situation; it’s their own fault.” But so what? Maybe they would like to get out and there’s too much demand for that particular service.
The customers are the real problem. If there were no customers, there would be no hookers. Correct? Supply and demand is a fact of life. If our world didn’t have snivelling little men who needed to pay for sex, our world wouldn’t have men and women who found that turning tricks was the best way to get paid.
On that note, there’s also the problem of pimps – the men (and also women) who profit the most from the use of hookers, even more so than the hookers in many cases. These greedy bastards will often take a disadvantaged gurl and con her (whether through drugs, lies, or brute force) into using her body to make huge heaps of money; they then take a large percentage of this money, leaving the actual worker very little. If she complains, she’s beaten or worse. And of course there’s no leaving. If she left, she could tell the police – but we all know that would be very bad for her.
And the prostitute who is forced to give herself away every night by violent, pathetic little men is the dirty one, right?
Yes, prostitution is illegal. But so is child slavery, and yet in Africa it still happens. Do we blame the children? No, we take them under our wings; We protect them and rehabilitate them. Why can’t we do the same with adults?
Because we like to judge. It’s a human trait, and it’s naïve to say we don’t do it – not even just a little bit. It’s harder to judge a child; we’re raised to protect them, not think less of them for the circumstances they’re put in. It seems like the moment that child is considered an adult though, we turn on them. We compare them to ourselves, and if we find them to be lacking when stacked against us they are condemned. We stick our noses very firmly in the air and call the disenfranchised “dirty.”
Are we judging the right person? When there’s a serial killer, do we blame them or the knife? When a car plows into a pedestrian, do we blame the vehicle or the driver? Our courts even have an allowance of duress (being forced into something under the threat of imminent danger) in the event of murder – one of the highest offences you can commit in our legal system. In this case, the people were ‘just in the wrong place at the wrong time.’
But when it comes to prostitutes, we turn a blind eye and blame them. We need to realize the hypocrisy of how we treat sex trade workers, and how we treat their “bosses.”
We need to recognize that these people are not the sole problem. They are used as tools for pleasure, and we must find ways to change their use. Government funded programs could help in achieving this, however because of the stigma, the needed funding and legislation is extremely hard to push.
We need to look at prostitutes as people who have been used as objects, rather than looking at them simply as objects. Because once we understand that they are human as well, we will pay them their rights, and help them to surpass this slavery.