Fuck This 50s Housewife Bullshit

by February 4, 2013
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housewifeAn Italian priest has caused outrage after putting up an article that said women were partly to blame for encouraging domestic abuse by not cleaning their houses, cooking properly and for wearing “tight and provocative” clothing. I can understand women being outraged about this as these are sexist, old school and unacceptable statements to post in or about an article at church.

A man’s decision to use domestic violence against his wife is entirely his own decision; his own moral choice and not the fault of his wife, whether she wears tight clothing or cleans and cooks at all. Cooking and cleaning are often (and should be) a shared duty between husbands and wives, and the fact is some women are just not very talented cooks while their husbands are excellent at it.  Besides, in the Bible, God tells husbands to love their wives and loving your wife does not mean beating her because she didn’t cook you dinner.

Piero Corsi of San Terenzo di Lerici wrote the offensive letter, which was posted online by a conservative Catholic Bruno Volpe. They said that although pornography and erotic television advertisements were influential factors, the core of the problem is that women are more and more provocative, yielding to arrogance and believing they can do everything themselves. “They end up exacerbating tensions, they said.” “Babies are left alone, there are dirty houses, cold meals and fast food at home and dirty clothing going unwashed.” They said that if a family ends up in a mess and turns into crime it is a form of violence which should be condemned and punished firmly.

Violence is a huge problem in Italy, although it is often under-reported and kept quiet. The UN says a third of all women in Italy have been abused and 127 have been killed by men in 2010. The mayor of Lerici, Marco Caluri said on Thursday that the article was astonishing and deeply offensive, and the bishop of La Spezia ordered it to be taken down, saying it contained unacceptable opinions which are against the common position of the church.

I was quite shocked to hear that there are people in the modern world that we live in who believe women are partially responsible for getting abused and support the men who are doing the abusing. Women should have equal rights to men. They should be able to choose whether they want to stay at home and do the cooking, cleaning, laundry or go to work. Often women have to do all these things and still work to support their family. Many men in parts of Canada and the United States step up to help their wives with household duties, but in Italy perhaps this is not the case.

Every woman has the right to be safe, to expect her husband not to beat her and to wear what she would like. A loving relationship of any kind does not involve domestic abuse; this is what the clergy of the Catholic Church needs to say – not that women are partially responsible for getting abused.


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