It has been estimated that 22% of females have never reached orgasm. Many women believe that it is a man’s job to make them cum. Whilst this is partly true as a loving and healthy relationship is about giving as well as receiving, it’s not your man’s job to know your anatomy inside out and know exactly what turns you on. Unless you know what you like, how can you share this information with him if he doesn’t know what feels good for you?
The best advice for anyone who is having trouble in this department is to take control of your own sexual destiny.
Break the Taboo: Whilst male masturbation is more openly discussed, joked about and seen as a sign of manliness, female masturbation is a taboo subject. It has been estimated that only 60% of women admit to actually masturbate. Maybe this is because men’s, ahem, is on the outside of their bodies whilst women’s are a lot more intimate and personal. Whatever the reason may be, it’s time to change this attitude and see self-loving as a positive and enhancing thing!
Why Masturbate? Masturbating is actually really good for your health. It has been proven that women who regularly masturbate have higher self-esteem and enjoy much more active and fulfilled sex lives. Masturbation also enables you to discover what turns you on, as well as what turns you off (which is just as important).
Finger Fun: You can either experiment using your fingers or can purchase any number of sex toys to bring yourself to climax. Using your fingers is the most common form of masturbation and is great for clitoral stimulation as you can adjust all movements to your liking.
Find a time when you won’t be disturbed. Lie down in a comfortable position, with your legs apart and slowly caress your clitoris. Explore your vulva by opening the lips to get to your clitoris at the front. Use your index finger to experiment with different speeds and movements against your clitoris, finding the sensation and rhythm which suits you best.
Playtime: Designer sex toys are great for vaginal penetration and can also be used to stimulate your clitoris. With so many shapes, sizes, designs and multiple functions available, there are sex toys available to suit everyone’s needs and pleasures.
You could even mix it up with a massager and achieve clitoral stimulation through sensual massage (a great way to reach orgasm).
Whichever method you use, don’t be too hard on yourself. Achieving an orgasm will not happen overnight (unless you are really lucky). More often than not women fail to reach orgasm due to psychological reasons.
If you are preoccupied, worried or anxious then this is not the best mental condition for achieving an orgasm. You need to be relaxed with your mind in a state of calm.
As the saying goes practice makes perfect. The female form is complex so get to know your body and which movements bring the most pleasure to you.