There’s no doubt about it: Taylor Swift is like the best friend you’ve always wished you had. Not only does she make music that makes you want to both cry and dance at the same time, but you know she’ll dance along with you while baking cookies and giving you relationship advice. However, since you most likely aren’t friends with Taylor Swift (if you are you should totally introduce me), you’re probably like me in the way that you follow her life online. Since her 1989 release last month, she’s helped me through a quarter-life crisis, a breakup and in the process reimagine what I want my future to look like. Here are some important lessons Taylor Swift taught me along the way.
1. It’s More Than Okay to Choose Not to be in a Relationship
Funny how the woman who’s constantly picked apart for having too many boyfriends is giving the advice that being single is a good thing – but just like Taylor Swift, I’ve grown up a lot since she came out with Love Story. I’d much rather focus on my career and my growth as a person right now without the distractions of a relationship, and it’s comforting to know that Taylor is in the same position. “I’ve learnt that just because someone is cute and wants to date you, that’s not a reason to sacrifice your independence,” she said in an MTV interview. Choosing to be alone so you can put your energy towards things that are important to you is a difficult road, but it’s worth it in the long run once you’ve achieved your goals.
2. Don’t Be Afraid to Know Your Worth and Ask For It
Since Taylor pulled her music off Spotify, she’s been getting a lot of negative press for making people pay for her new album. But even though she can realistically afford to give her music away for free, Taylor’s decision to stand firm in her beliefs inspires me to see my own worth and ask for it. “Music is art, and art is important and rare. Important, rare things are valuable. Valuable things should be paid for,” she said in the Wall Street Journal. And although I may not be a musician, I make my money in the same entrepreneurial way that Taylor does – through hard work that’s often overlooked because it’s an art. Whether you’re an entrepreneur or want that raise at the office, it’s important that we learn to speak up for what we’re worth – financially or otherwise.
3. Building Friendships with Ambitious, Intimidating Women is Important
Growing up, I was a tomboy who had a lot of guys as friends because I was bullied by other girls. Since those days they’ve intimidated the hell out of me and I’ve stuck to my pattern of being friends with more men than women. However, Taylor has taught me to break out of my shell and build better female friendships in my life. Not only is this important as a woman, but it’s important as a professional to surround yourself with other women who are on the same path as you. Ambitious, intimidating women are just who you should be around if you want to achieve your ambitious, intimidating dreams. “Other women who are killing it should motivate you, thrill you, challenge you and inspire you rather than threaten you and make you feel like you’re immediately being compared to them,” she said in Time.
So the next time you blast Taylor Swift’s 1989 alone in your room while doing something you’re passionate about, remember your worth and the fellow females who push you to go further in life. Taylor may not be your best friend, but she can still be one of those ambitious, intimidating women who inspires you to achieve your goals.
What life lessons has Taylor Swift taught you? Let me know in the comments below!